Nudge navigation through times of uncertainties
Miss the Marsh
Miss my roots
Miss the waves and wild swimming
It’s ok to not be ok
It’s ok to feel sad about it
In December 2020 I notice I was sad, a feeling of melancholy. I realise I was not going back home to my roots to celebrate the Christmas holidays with my family and community. My heart pinched. And that’s where my saboteurs (thoughts/triggers/emotions/inner critiques… came up to run the show.
No wild swimming, no surfing, no home visit… How more I was summing up, how more my saboteurs were draining me under deep waters.
Since the first lockdown, we experience a global change where many people had to work remotely, and that’s where they spend more time with themselves instead of running from one meeting to the other, pick up the kids, moving back home and spending more time with their own mind and discovering how dirty the mind can be if he/she is not tamed. Based on a country where shame and guilt are anchored in the behaviour, this doesn’t help at all.
People don’t reach out for help because they don’t have space for it.
And if they do, we tell them to stop complaining and you don’t have to exaggerate.. No worries tomorrow will be better.
People swallow their fears, get a poker face and sink deeply inwards.
Others try to project their fears to other people. Some of them tried with me as I'm an isolated person. I stay calm, observed their words, and mirrored their feelings without judging them. And I thank them for being concerned about my inner world, and I’m doing fine.
In the second phase, we’re extending the time where people are staying for a longer time with their own mind. I’m trained to spend a lot of time alone with my mind and yes, I feel sometimes alone, it’s sometimes not funny and they’re mierda days and that’s ok. I can imagine if it’s difficult sometimes for myself what it must be for most of the human population, that is not used to this mental routine, and moving fast on an automatic pilot is the usual habit to keep the lids closed. And it’s ok to name those feelings, ventilate those thoughts, but I’m not feeling lonely as I have myself. That’s where those thoughts came back as a rugby team, and that’s where I wake up being confident.
The third phase opens its doors. The vaccine is slowly landing and the good thing springtime is opening its doors, and a new life cycle opens up.
The cycle of life and new beginnings. The voices start to collaborate on a global level and articulate fierce courage to represent their needs for new perspectives and new approaches. The human being has his/her limits and we all need perspective, dream, vision and hope. Hope keeps us moving forward.
Every morning I meditate in front of the sky with a cup of tea next to me, followed by journaling in another space where I can visualise a fan of gardens and hear singing and chirping birds in spring. I start my day by bowing in admiration for mother earth, being grateful for life and find joy in small things. I continue to focus on my intentions, contributions, goals and I devote myself by saying yes and no to certain aspects of life. Below some examples.
I say yes to stay safe and to protect others and myself.
I say yes to shout, ventilate, label what’s going through my mind.
I say yes to have mierda days with and without SARS-CoV-2
I say yes to breathing deeply
I say yes to stay in the present
I say yes to take one cup at a time and with a lot of life
I say yes to keep finding my MA
I say yes to adventure
I say yes to dream fiercely
I say yes to stay calm
I say no to creating suffering in my life because of a respiratory syndrome coronavirus 2 (SARS-CoV-2)
I say no to get distracted by noise
I say no to toxic positivity
I say no to feeling guilty and/or shame for feeling, not 100%
It takes courage and discipline to be consistent. And it happens to fail and that’s ok. Just do it, repeat the form and be aligned in what you endeavour.
The force is with you!
Sending love and kindness, Arsenia
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